1. 5 Expectations That Ruin a Marriage

    March 23, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    One of Terrie’s early, unspoken expectations of marriage was that I would help around the house. Shortly after we were married, we had invited company over for dinner. I noticed she was stressed with the preparations and offered to help. I was pleased with how delighted she was at my offer and silently congratulated myself on my sensitivity and kindness.

    Then I rolled up my sleeves and tackled what looked to me like the biggest project—alphabetizing the bookshelf.

    Although we both laugh at that incident now, it didn’t strike Terrie funny then. But it was one of our early discoveries of how easily expectations collide in marriage.

    It is expectations and misunderstandings like these that set couples up for an ongoing stream of disappointment. In marriage counseling, we almost always find that marital disappointment comes from unrealistic, and often unspoken, expectations spouses have one of another. (more…)


  2. A Tribute to a Wonderful Mother-in-Law and to the Importance of Soulwinning

    March 15, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    This past Monday, right after preaching at the Capitol Connection meeting in Washington D.C., I received a phone call from Terrie letting me know that her mother had just gone to be with the Lord.

    In some ways, we were not shocked as Shirley (aged ninety-one) had been in hospice care since this summer. But her call Home on Monday came so quickly that we were surprised, and I wished I had been able to be with Terrie at that time.

    These past couple of days, as I’ve been preparing for Shirley’s funeral service, I’ve been remembering the many ways Shirley served her family and her Saviour. And I’ve been remembering the difference that Jesus makes in a life.

    Shirley was born in Chicago. Her father suffered from polio, and her mother died of tuberculosis when Shirley was just five years old.

    At the age of sixteen, she and her friend, Frances, set out for California where she found work in the naval shipyards at Mare Island, San Francisco. She was part of the famous women’s group known as “Rosie the Riveters” who made weapons for the war effort. She told us that at one time her job was to “cap” torpedoes at the factory. (more…)


  3. 5 Christmas Gifts Every Christian Parent Can Give

    December 8, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Every mom and dad knows that one of the best things about being a parent is giving to your children. Parents delight in sacrificing to meet their children’s needs and to bring them happiness.

    That’s one of the reasons Christmas can be a stressful time of year for parents who are struggling financially. The best gifts you can give your children, however, are not tangible. Regardless of what wrapped presents you may or may not be able to give, here are five gifts every Christian parent can (and should!) give to their children throughout the Christmas season: (more…)


  4. 7 Ways Parents Undermine Their Own Influence

    October 27, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    All children have moments or seasons when they struggle with obedience—just like their parents.

    But some young people, particularly in their teenage years, become defiant and overtly disrespectful. Why?

    There are many contributing reasons—including the freewill of every person to follow the Lord or to reject authority—but below are seven factors common when teenagers rebel. Regardless of what you may be doing right as a parent, if you are also doing any of these, you are undermining your own influence: (more…)


  5. Update on Chandler and the Preparation of God

    October 21, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Just four months ago, in June of this year, our three-year-old grandson, Chandler, was in the pediatric intensive care unit at Kaiser Sunset Hospital in Hollywood with necrotizing pneumonia.

    It was a close call that included a lung surgery, ten days in the hospital, and weeks of quarantine and some of the strongest antibiotics available even after he was out of the hospital. (I wrote about these days and what the Lord taught us in the hospital here.)

    Since June, we have been doing everything we could to guard Chandler from any possible germs or reinfection. But no amount of hand sanitizer or healthy eating could have protected him from the all-boy fall he had Monday night when he became airborne while playing and landed on his head on concrete. He blacked out briefly but came to when our son-in-law, Peter, rushed to pick him up. (more…)