1. 5 Expectations That Ruin a Marriage

    March 23, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    One of Terrie’s early, unspoken expectations of marriage was that I would help around the house. Shortly after we were married, we had invited company over for dinner. I noticed she was stressed with the preparations and offered to help. I was pleased with how delighted she was at my offer and silently congratulated myself on my sensitivity and kindness.

    Then I rolled up my sleeves and tackled what looked to me like the biggest project—alphabetizing the bookshelf.

    Although we both laugh at that incident now, it didn’t strike Terrie funny then. But it was one of our early discoveries of how easily expectations collide in marriage.

    It is expectations and misunderstandings like these that set couples up for an ongoing stream of disappointment. In marriage counseling, we almost always find that marital disappointment comes from unrealistic, and often unspoken, expectations spouses have one of another. (more…)


  2. How You Can Be a Blessing to the Sisk Family

    March 6, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    Words cannot express how thankful I am that the Lord brought Dr. Don Sisk into my life over twenty-five years ago. 

    I will never forget the day I met him at a pastor’s fellowship in Atlanta, Georgia. The meeting turned out to be non-edifying and issue-orientated, and before it was over, I found myself seated on the back row in a session, wondering why I had even come. 

    Minutes later, a white-haired man with a big smile sat down next to me and introduced himself as Don Sisk. Learning I was a pastor, he gave me his recent book, Joyful Giving

    Dr. Sisk and I look back on that meeting and chuckle. During the meeting, we both (separately) wondered why we had come. Today, both of us realize that God led us there for the very simple reason of meeting each other. 

    Over the years, Dr. Sisk has become one of my dearest friends and most-trusted mentors. He loves the Lord, loves God’s people, and loves the lost like no other man I know.  (more…)


  3. 5 Practices of Faithful Financial Stewards

    February 27, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    We know that a biblical perspective on our finances is based in the awareness that God is the ultimate owner of everything and has entrusted resources to us to steward, or manage, for Him. Our job, then, is to be faithful stewards.

    It’s easy to talk about faithfulness and to assume we are faithful just because we have the desire to be. But what does faithful stewardship look like in terms of our day-to-day lives?

    Over the years, I have observed five habits consistently present in those who wisely handle finances.  (more…)


  4. 6 Relational Characteristics of a Christlike Leader

    February 15, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    My generation tends to think of a strong spiritual leader as someone who is authoritative and able to administrate from a position of command. Indeed, we see leaders like this throughout the Bible—Joshua, Nehemiah, perhaps Paul.

    Millennials, however, have a greater tendency to see a strong spiritual leader as someone who is relationally connected and able to persuade from a position of understanding.

    Sometimes, for all the chatter about generational preferences, we forget that the Bible not only has examples of both kinds of leaders, but it also teaches all of us to develop in both areas.

    Perhaps no area of a spiritual leader’s life demonstrates his Christlikeness or fleshliness like his relationships. (more…)


  5. How to Know if You Are Growing in Grace

    February 8, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    We know that God calls us to “Grow in grace” (2 Peter 3:18). And every Christian who is walking with the Lord desires this kind of growth.

    But how do we know if we are indeed growing? What are the benchmarks of growth in grace? There are many throughout God’s Word, but here are three very specific ways we know God’s grace is growing in our lives.

    Grace nurtures trust in God.

    Grace does not shield us from trouble, but it does give us the ability to trust God in our troubles. (more…)