1. 15 Real Ways to Honor Your Wife

    February 13, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    I’ve read 1 Peter 3:7 hundreds—if not thousands—of times.

    Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.—1 Peter 3:7

    This verse is rich with marital counsel to husbands, and I use it often in counseling.

    • Dwell with them according to knowledge: Really know what her needs are as well as her likes, dislikes, and preferences.
    • As unto the weaker vessel: Remember she has special needs, and be sensitive to them.
    • As being heirs together of the grace of life: Treat your wife as an equal—as heirs together of God’s grace.
    • That your prayers be not hindered: If a husband is not being sensitive to his wife, he is limiting his access to answered prayer.

    But while I was meditating on this verse several months ago, a phrase that I had not given much thought to hit me like a lead pipe:

    Giving honour unto the wife…

    That’s contrary to how men think. We think it is our wives who are to give us honor. But in that moment, the Holy Spirit said to me, “You don’t honor Terrie as much as you could.” (more…)


  2. Helping Teens Make the Connection between Technology and Purity

    January 22, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    When I was a young boy in Northern California, the only time I wanted to go inside was dinnertime. All other hours, I wanted to be outside playing.

    Playtime for today’s young people, however, has transformed into screen time. The nature of community for twenty-first century children and teens has been radically changed.

    The typical teenager today spends over 7.5 hours each day connected to some form of media.

    This many hours of screen time poses serious concerns for the hearts and souls of young people—on every level.

    One of these concerns is purity.

    For today’s teens, technology and purity can be incredibly connected. Twenty percent of all teens say they have sent/posted nude or semi-nude pictures or videos of themselves. And there’s worse…but I’m stopping there. The point is that today’s Internet makes moral sins incredibly accessible (and deceptive) to young people at one of the most vulnerable times in their lives. (more…)


  3. How to Pray for Your Children

    November 13, 2014 by Paul Chappell

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    There are so many areas for parents to invest themselves in raising their children. And there are many resources available in learning to be godly parents.

    But there is one resource that is more powerful than any book, seminar, or method.

    In fact, this resource is the single resource you cannot afford to ignore or to get wrong. You may fail as a parent in many areas (at least I know I did!), but you cannot—you must not—fail in this area.

    You must pray for your children.

    Make it your goal that your Heavenly Father will hear from you about your child every single day.

    What should you pray for your child? Below are ten biblically-based principles of how to pray for your children. You could even use these as a daily prayer list for your child. (more…)


  4. 4 Stewardship Habits to Teach Your Children

    November 5, 2014 by Paul Chappell

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    Attitudes regarding money are learned, and children learn theirs primarily from their parents.

    You’ve seen it: Families that charge themselves into deep debt often see new debt perpetuated in the next generation. Likewise, families that are inconsistent in giving often see similar inconsistencies in the next generation.

    This is because habits of stewardship—whether they be generosity or stinginess, frugality or waste, budgeting or recklessness—tend to be learned in the home. Even if parents do not intentionally teach these habits, children observe and tend to copy them.

    First Corinthians 4:2 says, “Moreover it is required in stewards, that a man be found faithful.” Although the context of this verse is speaking about stewarding the truths of God’s Word, the principle applies to being stewards of God’s blessings in our finances.

    All of us who are parents could tell of the stewardship mistakes we have made. And none of us want to see our children make the same mistakes. What then are the habits that we need to teach our children regarding wise financial stewardship?

    I believe there are four stewardship habits every Christian should practice and intentionally teach their children: (more…)


  5. Growth Points 55: Five Ways to Have a Positive Influence in the Life of Your Child

    September 17, 2014 by Paul Chappell

    There is no doubt that spiritual formation in the heart of a child begins at an early age. (Moses, Samuel, Timothy, and others from the pages of Scripture testify to this fact.)

    Children are impressionable and easily influenced. Even in the life of a child, a difference can be made and greatness can be cultivated. But it takes a parent, grandparent, or teacher who is intentionally instilling truth into a young heart.

    In this Growth Points video, I share five vital ways to influence your children for the glory of God.


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