1. When Seventh Graders Surrender to the Ministry

    April 25, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Last night was a highlight for Terrie and me and our church family as we had the ordination service for our youngest son, Matthew.

    I remember almost fifteen years ago, as I prayed through a stack of decision cards from teens at our youth conference who had surrendered to full-time gospel ministry and came a name that brought great joy: Matthew Chappell.

    yc-decision-cardI look back over the years since then, and I know that where Matt is today is the fruit of so many investments. It’s the fruit of every Sunday school teacher, Christian school teacher, youth worker, West Coast Baptist College faculty and staff, and the Lancaster Baptist Church deacons and church family who have loved our family and encouraged our children.

    After high school, Matt attended West Coast Baptist College where he met his wife, Katie. For the past five years, Matt and Katie have served with my brother, Pastor Stephen Chappell, in Oceanside, California.

    As my brother attested to last night, Matt has been diligent in his calling, and the hand of God and fruit of ministry is evident in his life. Matt and Katie have led dozens of teens to Christ through public high school ministry. They’ve established Bible clubs in area high schools. They’ve developed a youth ministry at Coastline Baptist and invested in teens to nurture their walk with God. (more…)


  2. 10 Basic Marriage Truths Every Christian Spouse Should Know

    February 13, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    My wife Terrie and I were blessed to celebrate our thirty-fifth wedding anniversary last December. Every day—and more—I thank the Lord for Terrie and the gift of being her husband. Proverbs 18:22 is absolutely fulfilled in my life through her: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”

    A marriage that endures through the decades is the result of God’s grace through two people who are committed to one another. Sometimes as I counsel couples, I’m reminded of how important it is when it comes to marriage to keep the basics in mind. If we forget the basic truths about biblical marriage, we easily make assumptions that, over time, undermine the marriage relationship.

    Here are ten basics—in no particular order—that every married Christian should remember: (more…)


  3. 3 Ways to Win as a Parent

    December 10, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    Being a parent is a tough job. And in today’s broken society, it sometimes seems that there are 1,001 forces working against you.

    But parenting is not only tough—it’s vital. It’s the highest of callings, and it’s important that you succeed in raising your children to follow the Lord as adults.

    So how are you to win in this endeavor?

    1. Encourage more than you correct.

    Children are desperate for praise. When they’re little, you hear it in their constant demands, “Daddy, watch this!” “Mommy, look at me!” But the desire for affirmation doesn’t diminish as they grow—even if they learn how to mask it better. (more…)


  4. 5 Common (But Wrong) Assumptions Christian Parents Make

    December 8, 2015 by Paul Chappell

     

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    Assumptions are powerful for two reasons: first, because we often don’t recognize our assumptions (by definition, we accept them as fact) and second, because they do, in fact, shape our actions.

    In almost thirty years of pastoring and counseling, I’ve discovered that many Christian parents hold false assumptions which they don’t recognize and which they base their parenting decisions upon.

    Here are five: (more…)


  5. How to Teach Your Children Contentment

    November 25, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    We live in a world where “enough” is never enough. Whether we realize it or not, there is a constant pull on our hearts toward materialism and covetousness.

    But it’s not just adults who fight these battles. Our children are bombarded with the offer of more. They need more friends on Facebook. More style in their wardrobe. More entertainment. More money. More fun. More…of everything.

    Of course, more isn’t always bad. But it is harmful if we can’t be satisfied without it.

    In today’s materialistic society, however, it’s not difficult to see why our kids struggle with contentment. Children ages two to five see more than forty thousand commercials on television a year. No wonder they need more. (more…)