1. 5 Expectations That Ruin a Marriage

    March 23, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    One of Terrie’s early, unspoken expectations of marriage was that I would help around the house. Shortly after we were married, we had invited company over for dinner. I noticed she was stressed with the preparations and offered to help. I was pleased with how delighted she was at my offer and silently congratulated myself on my sensitivity and kindness.

    Then I rolled up my sleeves and tackled what looked to me like the biggest project—alphabetizing the bookshelf.

    Although we both laugh at that incident now, it didn’t strike Terrie funny then. But it was one of our early discoveries of how easily expectations collide in marriage.

    It is expectations and misunderstandings like these that set couples up for an ongoing stream of disappointment. In marriage counseling, we almost always find that marital disappointment comes from unrealistic, and often unspoken, expectations spouses have one of another. (more…)


  2. A Tribute to a Wonderful Mother-in-Law and to the Importance of Soulwinning

    March 15, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    This past Monday, right after preaching at the Capitol Connection meeting in Washington D.C., I received a phone call from Terrie letting me know that her mother had just gone to be with the Lord.

    In some ways, we were not shocked as Shirley (aged ninety-one) had been in hospice care since this summer. But her call Home on Monday came so quickly that we were surprised, and I wished I had been able to be with Terrie at that time.

    These past couple of days, as I’ve been preparing for Shirley’s funeral service, I’ve been remembering the many ways Shirley served her family and her Saviour. And I’ve been remembering the difference that Jesus makes in a life.

    Shirley was born in Chicago. Her father suffered from polio, and her mother died of tuberculosis when Shirley was just five years old.

    At the age of sixteen, she and her friend, Frances, set out for California where she found work in the naval shipyards at Mare Island, San Francisco. She was part of the famous women’s group known as “Rosie the Riveters” who made weapons for the war effort. She told us that at one time her job was to “cap” torpedoes at the factory. (more…)


  3. Thank You, President Trump

    January 23, 2017 by Paul Chappell

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    President Trump has certainly been a controversial figure on our political landscape throughout this past election season. Today, however, I am thankful for one of the first executive orders he signed—an order to reinstate a ban on federal funds to foreign abortions.

    Often called the “Mexico City Policy” (because of the location where it was announced), President Reagan was the first to set this policy. In short, it bans federal funding to international organizations that perform or recommend abortions.

    Eight years ago today, one of President Obama’s first executive actions was to revoke this policy, thus giving tax funds to foreign abortions.

    Today, on President Trump’s first full day in the oval office, one of his first executive actions was to reinstate it, banning tax funds to foreign abortions. (more…)


  4. 6 Ways to Help your Children Love Being in Ministry (even during the holidays)

    December 21, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    The Christmas/New Year’s season is incredibly busy if you are a pastor or ministry leader. Not only are there special church programs and services, but December is also a full month for outreach, weddings, school events…and all while you are wrapping your mind around planning and casting vision for a new year.

    It can be easy to put your family in the back seat—or at least on autopilot—as you prepare, preach, and work to focus forward.

    Some people even go so far as to suggest that ministry and family don’t mix. This is something our four adult Children who are serving the Lord disagree with, but that is in a large part due to Terrie’s work through the years to seize Christmas and New Years as memory-making times.

    It is true, however, that you do need to be intentional about making the holiday season special for your family even in the midst of such busyness.

    What can you do to make this “most wonderful time of the year” wonderful for your children as well? (more…)


  5. 5 Christmas Gifts Every Christian Parent Can Give

    December 8, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Every mom and dad knows that one of the best things about being a parent is giving to your children. Parents delight in sacrificing to meet their children’s needs and to bring them happiness.

    That’s one of the reasons Christmas can be a stressful time of year for parents who are struggling financially. The best gifts you can give your children, however, are not tangible. Regardless of what wrapped presents you may or may not be able to give, here are five gifts every Christian parent can (and should!) give to their children throughout the Christmas season: (more…)