October 30, 2013 by Paul Chappell
I was in Korea on a missions trip last year and was driving between churches with my dear friend Dr. Daniel Kim, pastor of the Bible Baptist Church in Seoul. Dr. Kim is a gracious man, and he expressed (as he often does) his joy in seeing what the Lord is doing through Lancaster Baptist Church and West Coast Baptist College. With the kindness of a mentor, he affirmed, “Dr. Chappell, I pray for you every day.”
I was touched that a man with the responsibilities of Dr. Kim would pray for me daily. I must have expressed my grateful surprise, and that is when he made a statement I will never forget:
“How can I tell you I love you if I do not pray for you?”
He was right—convictingly right.
My heart for the people I serve, those I lead, those I’m privileged to call my friends will be proportionate to my prayer list. After all, how can I tell them I love them if I don’t regularly pray for them? (more…)
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August 15, 2013 by Paul Chappell
This is a guest post by Dr. Jim Schettler, Vice President of Student Affairs at West Coast Baptist College. Dr. Schettler is known for his positive, constructive communication skills. In this post, he shares practical principles for communication.
I once heard a story about a king who sent two of his servants out on two separate missions.
The king commissioned the first servant to find the most glorious, beautiful, magnificent thing in the world. He told him to search the Earth over, find this great item, and bring it back to the palace.
The second servant, the king commissioned to find an item of opposite value—the most evil, wicked, sinister item on planet Earth.
The servants departed for their respective assignments and after years of travel returned to the castle.
As you might imagine, there was great anticipation in the palace as the first servant came before the king to present his find. An expectant silence hung across the court as he unveiled the most glorious item on Earth. (more…)
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June 28, 2013 by Paul Chappell
As a pastor who too often counsels people affected by the dark side of the Internet, I am very aware of the dangers posed online. Wandering hearts, inconsistent identities, even child predators—all of these find themselves very much at home online. (Of course, they find themselves at home offline too, but the internet does provide easy access for amplification of these sins.)
This is the dark side of the technology at our fingertips, and I hope that you have established personal accountability to protect yourself and your family in these areas.
But I would suggest that black and white sins aren’t the only dangers of the internet or social media. There’s another category we need to watch for—what I call the “grey side of technology.”
What are the grey dangers of technology? (more…)
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May 4, 2013 by Paul Chappell
Every spiritual leader, including the pastor (actually, especially the pastor) needs personal and spiritual accountability.
I have gathered a team of godly men with whom I meet (sometimes on the phone, but often in person) on a regular basis for accountability.
These men know they have access into every area of my life—and they take the access. They ask me probing questions regarding my walk with the Lord, family time, reading, and my thought life. They don’t hesitate to point out imbalances they see developing in any area of my life.
These men pray for me as well—for my personal needs, for my family, for specific challenges and needs in my life and ministry.
It seems that every time I mention the need for a leader to develop an accountability team or to seek out mentors, someone will ask, “How do you select such men?” This is a great question, especially considering the vital role of accountability in a Christian’s life. (more…)
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April 27, 2013 by Paul Chappell
Part of the joy of ministry is that of enjoying it with fellow laborers in the work.
In the secular workplace, friendship with coworkers is often a corny topic. When your expected ambition at work is to support your family and perhaps also further your career, who cares if you enjoy time with your coworkers?
But the work of the ministry isn’t the same as the work of factory. Should not those of us who have a common bond in Christ also have a common strength in relationships?
Ephesians 4:3 says “yes!”
Endeavouring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.—Ephesians 4:3
If you desire unity of the Spirit and a bond of peace, you will have to take the first word of that verse as an action item. Friendship requires endeavoring. You must give it specific attention and invest your energy in it.
Healthy churches and healthy ministry teams have healthy relationships. How can we develop these friendships? (more…)
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