1. 7 Practices to Build into Your Annual Calendar

    December 26, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    If planning counts as productivity, the week between Christmas and New Year’s is my most productive! This is my week for setting goals and planning out the “big rocks” in my calendar for the coming year.

    I have found that if I am to wisely steward the multiple roles God has entrusted to me—including husband, dad, grandfather, pastor, college president, friend, and more—it helps if I set aside blocks of time for what is central to meeting these roles.

    In other words, I can’t just hope it will all get done or assume my calendar will clear throughout the year. I need to be intentional about carving out time for what God has entrusted to me to accomplish.

    Here are some I work in every year. (If you’re not a pastor, yours will be a little different, but hopefully this list will give you a clearer picture of what yours would be.) (more…)


  2. 10 Basic Marriage Truths Every Christian Spouse Should Know

    February 13, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    My wife Terrie and I were blessed to celebrate our thirty-fifth wedding anniversary last December. Every day—and more—I thank the Lord for Terrie and the gift of being her husband. Proverbs 18:22 is absolutely fulfilled in my life through her: “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord.”

    A marriage that endures through the decades is the result of God’s grace through two people who are committed to one another. Sometimes as I counsel couples, I’m reminded of how important it is when it comes to marriage to keep the basics in mind. If we forget the basic truths about biblical marriage, we easily make assumptions that, over time, undermine the marriage relationship.

    Here are ten basics—in no particular order—that every married Christian should remember: (more…)


  3. 15 Real Ways to Honor Your Wife

    February 13, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    I’ve read 1 Peter 3:7 hundreds—if not thousands—of times.

    Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.—1 Peter 3:7

    This verse is rich with marital counsel to husbands, and I use it often in counseling.

    • Dwell with them according to knowledge: Really know what her needs are as well as her likes, dislikes, and preferences.
    • As unto the weaker vessel: Remember she has special needs, and be sensitive to them.
    • As being heirs together of the grace of life: Treat your wife as an equal—as heirs together of God’s grace.
    • That your prayers be not hindered: If a husband is not being sensitive to his wife, he is limiting his access to answered prayer.

    But while I was meditating on this verse several months ago, a phrase that I had not given much thought to hit me like a lead pipe:

    Giving honour unto the wife…

    That’s contrary to how men think. We think it is our wives who are to give us honor. But in that moment, the Holy Spirit said to me, “You don’t honor Terrie as much as you could.” (more…)


  4. Growth Points 50: How to Nurture a Godly Family in a Fervent Ministry Environment

    May 6, 2014 by Paul Chappell

    All of us that are passionate about ministry recognize that we often have competing interests between family and ministry. If we’re not careful, we can yield to the addiction of the urgency in ministry to the neglect of our families.

    I know that at times I was on the wrong end of that equation as I raised our children. I’m thankful for the Holy Spirit, the Word of God, and a godly wife who reminded me over the years to keep that balance. By God’s grace, and I believe Terrie’s sensitivity to this need for balance, we’re thankful today to have four married children happily serving the Lord in ministry.

    I’d like to share a few thoughts on how you can nurture a spiritual family while being involved in a busy ministry environment:


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  5. The Best Marriage Book I’ve Read This Year

    February 14, 2014 by Paul Chappell

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    When Terrie and I got married thirty-three years ago, one of the commitments we made was to keep growing as husband and wife. Every year, I read at least one book on marriage (usually more), and Terrie does the same. Often we read the same book and then discuss it together.

    The most recent book I read, however, was just for me—The Exemplary Husband by Stuart Scott. Without a doubt, it is one of the best books I’ve ever read on marriage.

    The topics covered in this book get right to the heart issues of marriage (although the first three chapters are pretty basic and a little slow). The author uses much Scripture throughout the book, and he provides lists with practical, bullet point applications—just what we men need.

    For instance, here are his main thoughts with bulleted lists on “Ways a Husband Can Treat His Wife as His Companion”: (more…)