1. 3 Ways to Win as a Parent

    December 10, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    Being a parent is a tough job. And in today’s broken society, it sometimes seems that there are 1,001 forces working against you.

    But parenting is not only tough—it’s vital. It’s the highest of callings, and it’s important that you succeed in raising your children to follow the Lord as adults.

    So how are you to win in this endeavor?

    1. Encourage more than you correct.

    Children are desperate for praise. When they’re little, you hear it in their constant demands, “Daddy, watch this!” “Mommy, look at me!” But the desire for affirmation doesn’t diminish as they grow—even if they learn how to mask it better. (more…)


  2. 5 Common (But Wrong) Assumptions Christian Parents Make

    December 8, 2015 by Paul Chappell

     

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    Assumptions are powerful for two reasons: first, because we often don’t recognize our assumptions (by definition, we accept them as fact) and second, because they do, in fact, shape our actions.

    In almost thirty years of pastoring and counseling, I’ve discovered that many Christian parents hold false assumptions which they don’t recognize and which they base their parenting decisions upon.

    Here are five: (more…)


  3. How to Teach Your Children Contentment

    November 25, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    We live in a world where “enough” is never enough. Whether we realize it or not, there is a constant pull on our hearts toward materialism and covetousness.

    But it’s not just adults who fight these battles. Our children are bombarded with the offer of more. They need more friends on Facebook. More style in their wardrobe. More entertainment. More money. More fun. More…of everything.

    Of course, more isn’t always bad. But it is harmful if we can’t be satisfied without it.

    In today’s materialistic society, however, it’s not difficult to see why our kids struggle with contentment. Children ages two to five see more than forty thousand commercials on television a year. No wonder they need more. (more…)


  4. 4 Ways to Make Family Devotions Work

    November 19, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    Parents are responsible not only to teach God’s Word to their children but to “teach them diligently.” Deuteronomy 6:7 describes the level of persistence with which we are to teach our children: “and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

    In other words, your home is to be an ongoing school of discipleship—a Bible school. The most practical way I know to obey the instruction to diligently teach God’s Word to your children is to read the Bible daily with your children. In our home, we called this time “Family Devotions.” Some call it “Family Altar.” But whatever you call it, do it. Have a time every day when as a family you learn from God’s Word together.

    If family devotions weren’t part of your own growing up experience, beginning them in your home may feel intimidating. But it’s not as hard as you think. Any parent with a real relationship with God—even a new Christian—can lead their child spiritually.

    Here are a few tips to help: (more…)


  5. The Christmas My Children Refuse to Forget

    November 12, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    The way I remember Christmas morning when our children were small was a row of eager children sitting on the couch—excited to open their presents, but first basking in the warmth of hearing Dad read the Christmas story. And of course, meditating on the grace of God in taking on human form and…

    Unfortunately, that’s not the way our old VHS tape preserved one of those Christmas morning memories.

    In one particular home video, rediscovered in recent months by our son, Larry, and watched with interest and delight by our other adult children, our four kids were not in a row (or even on the couch). I was reading the Christmas story—or rather, trying to—over Matt’s three-year-old interruptions. (more…)