1. 6 Ways to Help your Children Love Being in Ministry (even during the holidays)

    December 21, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    The Christmas/New Year’s season is incredibly busy if you are a pastor or ministry leader. Not only are there special church programs and services, but December is also a full month for outreach, weddings, school events…and all while you are wrapping your mind around planning and casting vision for a new year.

    It can be easy to put your family in the back seat—or at least on autopilot—as you prepare, preach, and work to focus forward.

    Some people even go so far as to suggest that ministry and family don’t mix. This is something our four adult Children who are serving the Lord disagree with, but that is in a large part due to Terrie’s work through the years to seize Christmas and New Years as memory-making times.

    It is true, however, that you do need to be intentional about making the holiday season special for your family even in the midst of such busyness.

    What can you do to make this “most wonderful time of the year” wonderful for your children as well? (more…)


  2. 5 Christmas Gifts Every Christian Parent Can Give

    December 8, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Every mom and dad knows that one of the best things about being a parent is giving to your children. Parents delight in sacrificing to meet their children’s needs and to bring them happiness.

    That’s one of the reasons Christmas can be a stressful time of year for parents who are struggling financially. The best gifts you can give your children, however, are not tangible. Regardless of what wrapped presents you may or may not be able to give, here are five gifts every Christian parent can (and should!) give to their children throughout the Christmas season: (more…)


  3. 7 Ways Parents Undermine Their Own Influence

    October 27, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    All children have moments or seasons when they struggle with obedience—just like their parents.

    But some young people, particularly in their teenage years, become defiant and overtly disrespectful. Why?

    There are many contributing reasons—including the freewill of every person to follow the Lord or to reject authority—but below are seven factors common when teenagers rebel. Regardless of what you may be doing right as a parent, if you are also doing any of these, you are undermining your own influence: (more…)


  4. 5 Ways to Help Your Children Walk in the Truth

    July 25, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    One of the easy traps for parents to fall into is having shortsighted goals for their children.

    • If I can just make it through today… (particularly in the preschool years)
    • My child’s greatest problem is to change _______ behavior.
    • If he can just make a higher grade…
    • If she could just have more friends…

    While it is good to make it through another day(!) and behavior, grades, and friends do matter, 3 John 4 gives one of the greatest goals any Christian parent can hold: “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”

    This is a long-term goal—that your children would set a lifelong direction of walking in the truth.

    By the grace of God, Terrie and I can personally attest to the joy of having children who not only walk with the Lord, but are actively pursuing Him and serving Him. We thank the Lord that all four of our adult children are loving and serving the Lord with their spouses.

    What helps set the direction for your children on the path of walking in the truth? Here are a few things we’ve learned over the years through our family life and through counseling hundreds of other families. (more…)


  5. How to Protect Your Children

    May 27, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Do you ever tremble at the incredible responsibilities on your shoulders as a parent?

    On one hand, you are called to protect the tender hearts and minds of your children, and on the other, you are trying to do so in a terribly perverse society and while exercising faith in God.

    How do you balance both?

    I preached a recent message on the love and trust Jocabed showed as Moses’ mom, and in it, I highlighted five commands from Scripture for parents regarding protecting their children. (You can see that excerpt from the message here.)

    Although only God can give you the wisdom you need for specific situations, there are several clear instructions in Scripture regarding the protection parents are responsible to give their children: (more…)