1. 7 Ways Parents Undermine Their Own Influence

    October 27, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    All children have moments or seasons when they struggle with obedience—just like their parents.

    But some young people, particularly in their teenage years, become defiant and overtly disrespectful. Why?

    There are many contributing reasons—including the freewill of every person to follow the Lord or to reject authority—but below are seven factors common when teenagers rebel. Regardless of what you may be doing right as a parent, if you are also doing any of these, you are undermining your own influence: (more…)


  2. 5 Ways to Help Your Children Walk in the Truth

    July 25, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    One of the easy traps for parents to fall into is having shortsighted goals for their children.

    • If I can just make it through today… (particularly in the preschool years)
    • My child’s greatest problem is to change _______ behavior.
    • If he can just make a higher grade…
    • If she could just have more friends…

    While it is good to make it through another day(!) and behavior, grades, and friends do matter, 3 John 4 gives one of the greatest goals any Christian parent can hold: “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth.”

    This is a long-term goal—that your children would set a lifelong direction of walking in the truth.

    By the grace of God, Terrie and I can personally attest to the joy of having children who not only walk with the Lord, but are actively pursuing Him and serving Him. We thank the Lord that all four of our adult children are loving and serving the Lord with their spouses.

    What helps set the direction for your children on the path of walking in the truth? Here are a few things we’ve learned over the years through our family life and through counseling hundreds of other families. (more…)


  3. How to Protect Your Children

    May 27, 2016 by Paul Chappell

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    Do you ever tremble at the incredible responsibilities on your shoulders as a parent?

    On one hand, you are called to protect the tender hearts and minds of your children, and on the other, you are trying to do so in a terribly perverse society and while exercising faith in God.

    How do you balance both?

    I preached a recent message on the love and trust Jocabed showed as Moses’ mom, and in it, I highlighted five commands from Scripture for parents regarding protecting their children. (You can see that excerpt from the message here.)

    Although only God can give you the wisdom you need for specific situations, there are several clear instructions in Scripture regarding the protection parents are responsible to give their children: (more…)


  4. 3 Ways to Win as a Parent

    December 10, 2015 by Paul Chappell

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    Being a parent is a tough job. And in today’s broken society, it sometimes seems that there are 1,001 forces working against you.

    But parenting is not only tough—it’s vital. It’s the highest of callings, and it’s important that you succeed in raising your children to follow the Lord as adults.

    So how are you to win in this endeavor?

    1. Encourage more than you correct.

    Children are desperate for praise. When they’re little, you hear it in their constant demands, “Daddy, watch this!” “Mommy, look at me!” But the desire for affirmation doesn’t diminish as they grow—even if they learn how to mask it better. (more…)


  5. 5 Common (But Wrong) Assumptions Christian Parents Make

    December 8, 2015 by Paul Chappell

     

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    Assumptions are powerful for two reasons: first, because we often don’t recognize our assumptions (by definition, we accept them as fact) and second, because they do, in fact, shape our actions.

    In almost thirty years of pastoring and counseling, I’ve discovered that many Christian parents hold false assumptions which they don’t recognize and which they base their parenting decisions upon.

    Here are five: (more…)